A Beauty Worth Pursuing

kim-kardashianThis morning I was watching extreme celebrity, where female celebrities who got pregnant, gain weight, and has a strong desire to lose weight again, be sexy, get back in shape and look hot. I think its a distorted view of beauty. Yes, Every woman, longs to be beautiful, but not just that, but to be truly captivating. We desire to be pursued, wooed and loved. I do! As a woman, I’m in awe and feel so grateful every time i see something or someone beautiful. I also want to look good and beautiful all the time. This desire, is Gods nature reflected to woman, our God is beautiful, captivating, glorious, majestic. Yes, Beautiful Jesus. When we desire to be like Jesus, our beauty will starts from the inside, and will radiate in the outside.

Below is an article from Ransomed heart, entitle, a beauty worth pursuing…

The desire to be beautiful is an ageless longing. Beauty has been extolled and worshiped and kept just out of reach for most of us. (Do you like having your picture taken? Do you like seeing those pictures later? How do you feel when people ask you your age? This issue of beauty runs deep!) For others, beauty has been shamed, used, and abused. Some of you have learned that possessing beauty can be dangerous. And yet—and this is just astounding—in spite of all the pain and distress that beauty has caused us as women, the desire remains.

And it’s not just the desire for an outward beauty, but more—a desire to be captivating in the depths of who you are. Cinderella is beautiful, yes, but she is also good. Her outward beauty would be hollow were it not for the beauty of her heart. That’s why we love her. In The Sound of Music, the Countess has Maria beat in the looks department, and they both know it. But Maria has a rare and beautiful depth of spirit. She has the capacity to love whiskers on kittens and mean-spirited children. She sees the handiwork of God in music and laughter and climbing trees. Her soul is Alive. And we are drawn to her.

Ruth may have been a lovely, strong woman, but it is to her unrelenting courage and vulnerability and faith in God that Boaz is drawn. Esther is the most beautiful woman in the land, but it is her bravery and her cunning, good heart that moves the king to spare her people. This isn’t about dresses and makeup . . . Don’t you recognize that a woman yearns to be seen and to be thought of as captivating? We desire to possess a beauty that is worth pursuing, worth fighting for, a beauty that is core to who we truly are. We want beauty that can be seen; beauty that can be felt; beauty that affects others; a beauty all our own to unveil.

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Your Friendgirl Deserves Better

This is a repost from Joshua Rogers, http://www.boundless.org, i believe this is worth sharing….

If you’re one of those guys who is passively encouraging a single woman to waste her time on you when you’re not romantically interested, then it’s time for one of the most important breakups of your life.

“Dude, we’re just friends,” said the defensive 20-something sitting across from me.

“It sure doesn’t look like a friendship to me or anyone else,” I said.

“So I enjoy female companionship,” he said. “It doesn’t mean we have to date each other.”

“Come on, man,” I said. “You are dating her — minus any sign of commitment from you. She’s your friendgirl, whether you want to admit it or not.”

He barely suppressed a smile, because he knew. He knew she really liked him; he knew he wasn’t really interested in her; he knew she was just a placeholder — and unfortunately, their dysfunctional relationship wasn’t rare.

He’s like so many young men who are “just friends” with single, young women who believe the relationship might actually be going somewhere. At best, these guys are unwittingly part of a relationship that deceptively looks like a good deal for both parties. At worst, they’re willfully blind to the ways they feed a relationship that largely just benefits them.

If you’re one of these guys, it’s time for a wake-up call. It’s time to recognize that there’s something more important at stake here than your convenient relationship with your friendgirl. What’s at stake is her heart.

And her heart is vulnerable. Part of the reason it’s vulnerable is that she’s uniquely, beautifully female; and another reason is that culturally, she’s expected to wait for a man to initiate. As her patience grows thin, she’s more susceptible to believing a man is pursuing her when all he really wants is a friendgirl to stroke his affirmation-starved ego.

Men, this is not cool. And if you’re one of those guys who is passively encouraging a single woman to waste her time on you when you’re not romantically interested, then it’s time for one of the most important breakups of your life.

Got a Friendgirl?

Perhaps you’re uncertain whether your long-term, super-close female friend is a friendgirl. Read through the list below and see if any of it sounds familiar.

You might have a friendgirl if you’re friends with a woman you never intend to marry and . . .

You know she’s interested, but you figure that as long as you don’t kiss her, she will understand that the relationship is platonic.
People ask if you’re dating her, and you act surprised every time.
You’ve had to sheepishly explain that she’s “like a sister” to you.
You think that defining the relationship means passively aggressively hinting that you’re not into her.
When she calls you, you hang out with her if it’s convenient.
When you call her, she drops everything to be with you.
You justify continuing to hang out with her — despite being uninterested — because, well, you never know, maybe an attraction will eventually develop.
Does any of this sound uncomfortably familiar, men? Well, imagine how she feels reading it (that matters to you, right?).

What You’re Doing to Her

“Hold on,” you say, “I admit I don’t like her like that, but she knows it.” Right. You really think a woman in her right mind would make this kind of investment so that one day — if she’s lucky — she will get to serve punch at your wedding? Give me a break.

Guys, heads up: Your friendgirl thinks (or hopes) something might be going on between the two of you. She actually believes a great guy like you wouldn’t hang out with her, share his deepest feelings and kinda-sorta flirt with her unless there was some chance of a relationship. At the same time, she’s confused. Though you’re perfectly comfortable being emotionally intimate with her, you physically interact with her like she’s your kid sister.

Essentially, you’re doing just enough to string her along, which provides you with a benefit that any man can appreciate: being liked by a woman. Although you never truly reciprocate, she takes what you give; because in a desert with too few bachelors showing interest in her, drinking saltwater feels like a treat — most of the time.

There are other times when it hurts, like when you send signals that — to any reasonable woman — indicate interest, but then you go on about the (other) woman you hope to marry one day. And ultimately, what will hurt more than anything is when your so-called friendship dissolves shortly after you meet the woman you really want.

It’s easy to disclaim responsibility for your friendgirl’s decision to keep pining after you when you never explicitly said you were interested. Well, at least take responsibility for the fact that you enjoy the benefit of being in a culture where women are still expected to wait for you to initiate. And then consider that maybe — just maybe — she might think that’s exactly what you’re doing when you regularly offer the kind of emotional intimacy normally reserved for a love interest.

Beyond Lame

Brother, if you’re really interested in your friendgirl, then pursue her. Stop halfway dating her, start opening her door and clearly define the relationship for what it is. If things work out between the two of you, great. You’ll be one of those rare couples who truly began as friends, got married and thereafter convinced hopeless romantics everywhere that it really is possible for friendship to come first.

But if you’re not ready to pursue your friendgirl — after all this time — then kindly tell her you don’t see the relationship going beyond friendship and apologize if you’ve done anything to give that impression. To the degree you’ve been more emotionally intimate with her, she will rightfully feel more betrayed and misled by you. And at that point, the relationship will probably fall apart, and both of you will move on instead of spending years in an ambiguous, non-starter relationship.

When the quasi-friendship ends, as these kinds of relationships usually do, it will be painful, heartbreaking stuff — you know, kind of like a breakup. At that point, if there was any doubt in your mind whether the relationship was something more than a friendship, the drama of its demise will clear that up. And hopefully, you’ll start treating women as sisters — physically and emotionally — until you meet a woman you like enough to treat as a prospective wife.

There’s a third option: You could ignore this advice and continue unofficially dating your friendgirl. But before you do that, let me make one more plea. Song of Solomon contains an oft-quoted verse that says, “I charge you, O daughters of Jerusalem, that you not stir up or awaken love until it pleases” (Song of Solomon 8:4). This verse is often used to admonish single women not to prematurely commit themselves romantically. I want to use it to admonish you.

Please understand that there is nothing that will “stir up or awaken love” in a woman’s heart like emotional intimacy and spending time together. And it’s the little things that open her heart — the two-hour phone conversation, the Sunday afternoon movie, burgers at your favorite dive, riding to church together — whatever it is, moment by moment, you’re drawing her in.

And although I know it’s delightful to receive this kind of attention, please recognize this: It’s more than her attention you’re getting — it’s her love. And, brother, if all you’re ready to give her is the privilege of being your favorite gal pal, I’m sorry, but you don’t deserve it, and believe me, she deserves better.

A Letter to Self….

Dear 21 year old Jenice Joy,

It’s just 6 months ago when you finally graduated from college at PUP Taguig. And you continue working with TIPS… I know how excited you are for the next season of your life; you have so many plans in mind. You just listed your short and long-term plans. Those consist with things you want to buy for yourself and your family, mostly the ones that you’re deprived of when you’re young, goals you want to achieve and the path you want to take. You’re very optimistic, passionate and determined to fulfill your dreams.

You’re in the right track girl! I encourage you to never stop hoping and dreaming, no matter what happened don’t Imagestop! Few months from now, you will experience a great pain, a pain of loosing a loved one. Your friend, your number one fan, your encourager, the best “tatay” in the world. He will have his last breath with you, right in your arms. As if he was telling you that he wants you to be in-charge for the family, for nanay and Jell. Because of this lost, this pain will make you strong, so strong that you’ll be independent from others but so much dependent from God! God will be your dad! He will be your greatest source of strength, grace, wisdom and comfort. You’ll run to Him when you’re down, you’ll cry to Him when you’re hurt. You will seek comfort from Him when you’re tired and weary. From then on, you’ll be the family’s breadwinner, you’ll replace tatay and you’ll be strong for nanay and Jell. And guess what? You can do it! Amazingly, God will work in your behalf!

Then get ready! God will open doors of opportunities for you. I know you just want to work and remain as an ordinary employee. But God has greater plans for your career. He will call you to do things you cannot do on your own. Each decision requires faith, so increase your faith and trust God more! He knows what’s best for you. Soon you’ll be leaving your job in this small non-profit organization. You’ll start working with multinational companies; your background in IT will be your advantage. You’ll meet different type of people from all walks of life.  Your work will bring you to different places, around Philippines and Asia and soon around the world. You’ll enjoy your job, you’ll have fun at work but for sometime you’ll reach your comfort zone and start to get bore. When this happens, you’ll start praying & looking for more challenging job opportunities. Jenice, you can love your job, in this way you’ll excel, but don’t love your company, because you’ll never know when company stops loving you. Just be excellent at work, honor God by doing more than what is expected from you and for sure God will reward each good work you’ve done. By the way, you’ll also pursue graduate school at your dream university, this one is not in your plan, but God made it possible for you, this is part of His bigger plans.

Remember, you cannot please everyone and you don’t have to! So just do something that you know is right and pleases God. That’s your purpose, you exist to honor God.

Now let’s talk about love… I know you’re so in love right now and you think he is the one for you. I just want to remind you that you should also honor God in your relationship. Jenice, enjoy this season of singleness, you only have 10 – 15 years to do so, the rest of your life you’ll spend it with a partner and with your kids. Don’t allow your world to revolve only with that man. There’s a beautiful world out there waiting for you. You have your God, family, friends and career opportunities. Savor every moment with them too! Don’t settle for less than you deserve dear. You’re a princess, you’re valuable and you deserve more than this. You should be pursue and not the other way around. I know you’re independent but you should allow yourself to be pursued! Don’t focus too much on your romantic relationship so that when its time to let go, it will be less painful for you. Don’t worry, God will replace him with the one who’s best for you, just wait, God is writing your love story. A love story with a happy ending!

On finances… Be a good steward! Tithe and Give! I know you want all these stuff – bags, clothes, shoes, gadgets and travel. These are not bad things, you can have it, but I encourage you save and invest first and make your money work for you first before buying this. Sacrifice now so you can enjoy your future. With this principle you can save yourself from debt, money rat trap and poor money mindset. Start thinking like rich people and you’ll find yourself as rich as them! Again, don’t eat everything from your harvest, save some seeds for sowing so that it will multiply. Remember, we are called to be rich not just to satisfy our selfish desires but to be a blessing to other people.

Lastly, keep that desire in your heart to know God more. Be independent from others but be totally dependent from God. Without God you can’t do anything. Trust God wholeheartedly. Trust Him only. Life is not about you, it is about Him. Always honor God and share His love to everyone. Shine and be a blessing!

Repost: Believe and Be Satisfied

Believe & be satisfied, I must say this is true. For almost 4 years, I believe than I am the tail of this season. I was in awe how God loves me so much and how He completes me. I realized that no man can ever complete you, it is only God. And as I enter into another relationship, God wants to complete me first, He wants me to be whole first, so I can be one with my future spouse.
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Everyone longs to give themselves completely to someone
To have a deep relationship with another
To be loved thoroughly and exclusively.
But God says:”No, not until you are satisfied and fulfilled
and content with living loved by me alone.
I love you my child, and until you discover that only in me
is your satisfaction to be found,
you will not be capable of the perfect human relationship
that I have planned for you.
You will never be united with another
until you are united with me —
exclusive of any other desires and longings.
I want you to stop planning, stop wishing,
and allow me to give you the most thrilling relationships that exists,
one that you can’t even imagine.
I want you to have the best.
Please allow me to bring it to you.
Keep watching me, expecting the greatest things.
Keep experiencing the satisfaction that I am.Keep learning and listening to ht e things I tell you…
Don’t be anxious. Don’t worry.
Don’t look around at the things that others have gotten
or that I have given them.
Don’t look at the things that you think that you want.
Just keep looking at me
or you’ll miss what I want to show you.
And then, when you are ready,
I’ll surprise you with a love far more wonderful that you would ever dream.
You see, until you are ready,
and until the one that I have for you is ready,
who I am working with this very minute
as I am working with you,
so to have both of you ready at the same time,
until you are both satisfied exclusively with me
and the life I have prepared for you.
you won’t be able to experience the love that is based on
your relationship with me… and this is perfect love.And, dear one,
I want you to have the most wonderful love,
I want you to experience a relationship with me,
and to enjoy the everlasting beauty and perfection and love
that I offer.
Know that I love you utterly.
I am your Heavenly Father.
Believe and be satisfied.”
Author: Unknown

Hair Loss/Hair Fall Solution

I’m sharing this because I noticed the strands of my hair were getting thinner, and hair fall is getting terrible. This is what I got from internet. But I went to a dermatologist in Asian Hospital, Dra. Mary Jane Arzadon. She recommends shampoo, conditioner and spray. I tried it but it’s too expensive. I tried going natural using Healthy Options hair products. Then, I switch to natural, proudly Pinoy made, hair strengthening shampoo and conditioner from Human Nature.

Treatment for hair fall:
■You ought to, begin with re-structuring your diet. Eat right. Eat wisely. And most importantly stick to meal timings and ditch the junk food.  Eat at least 4 helpings of fruits and vegetables daily. These are loaded with the essential micro-nutrients that promise thick luxuriant hair.
■An important addition to your diet should be coconut water. Consume water from 1 coconut every single day.
■In the initial phase of the hair loss management, it is advisable to supplement your diet with a multi-vitamin and multi-mineral pill.
Gradually taper it off.
■Applying yogurt to the scalp does wonders for your hair. It stimulates good growth and protects them from damage. Do this once a week.
■Massaging is the best exercise you can give your scalp. The sluggish hair follicles are brought back into action and there is an increased supply of nutrients and oxygen to the roots, promoting hair growth. Resort to an oil massage a minimum of twice a week.
■Homoeopathic medicated oil – Arnica has shown beneficial results. It strengthens the hair from root to shaft and has the capability to reverse hair loss.
■It is important for you to bear in mind that an aggressive treatment is required at this juncture, but it should be continued and made a part of your daily routine.

Treatment for Hair Fall
Hair loss can be reduced to a considerable extent with the help of a few simple home remedies.

Coconut oil is one of the most widely recommended treatment for hair fall. Warm a teaspoon of coconut oil in a small container. Thereafter, gently massage the warm oil into your scalp for 10-15 minutes. Now, wrap your head with a warm towel. This will ensure that the oil seeps into the scalp. After 30 minutes, take the towel off and rinse your hair with lukewarm water and a mild shampoo. This remedy, if performed twice a week, will help in reducing hair fall to a large extent.

Mix together the yolk of one egg and a tablespoon of organic honey and then massage the mixture into your scalp. Wash the application off thoroughly with some lukewarm water, after 20-30 minutes. This remedy will also help in preventing hair loss.

Grind together, a half a teaspoon each of black pepper seeds and lime seeds, so as to form a thin powder. Add a few drops of water to get a thick paste. Massage this paste into the scalp and let it sit for about 10 minutes, after which wash it off with warm water. Please bear in mind that this remedy may cause some level of irritation.

Combine 250ml of freshly squeezed lettuce juice with an equal quantity of spinach juice. 500ml of this mixture should be consumed everyday, if one is suffering from hair loss.

A healthy and well balanced diet is also extremely important, when it comes to tackling this problem. Liberal quantities of fresh fruits, green leafed vegetables, seeds and nuts should be included into the daily diet. They will provide the body with a large number of essential nutrients and minerals that are required for maintaining strong and healthy hair. Avoid using hair dryers, harsh chemical, strong shampoos and hair dyes, as they will simply damage your hair even further.

Quarter Life Crisis

Recently, i’ve been experiencing panic, worry, boredom and loneliness attacks…

there will be a day, an hour or a minute of depression… but thank God that His words and promises is already planted in my heart that it never last that long... i never feel the emptiness that long because God has a way of fulfilling that emptiness in my heart and restoring joy & strength in me! but honestly, there are really dreadful days, hours in my life… i feel insecure, sad, unfulfilled…

yesterday i realized that i feel this way because i don’t feel grateful with what i have, who i am & where i am at this point of time! this is because i soooo like to  be in a relationship right now, get married and have my own family! i envied my friends and ladies i saw at the mall with their husband while playing & shopping with their kids… i envied my friends whose married and have kids! sometimes i think, what if i’m married and have kids na, will i be happier? will i be more satisfied?

i know that i should not feel this way! this is the kind of life that i pray and always want to have! i dream to be successful in my career… buy my own stuff, travel around & discover new places, drive my own car and eat whenever i like to! but though God has blessed me with all these, i’m still not happy! —- yeah, im contented with my lifestyle, but im bored being single… i wanna experience something new…. and i think being in a relationship and getting married is the answer! —- super wanting things & relationships that i dont have right now steal the opportunity for me to enjoy the things & relationships that i have right now! my growing relationship with God, nanay & jell, my bff – mami myrns, my friends, my relatives, my colleagues, my job, my car, my clothes & bags, free time, freedom and unlimited opportunities…

i should stop the “hunt” mindset, wanting to be in a relationship… i should continue enjoying my relationship with God and seeking His will, i should continue enjoying fruitful relationships! i should start to get a life, enjoy season of singleness, discover new things and wonderful opportunities that lies ahead of me! i believe that my God will bring me into a season of having my own family — in His time! For now, i will embrace this season… and the purpose why i am here…. hugs…hugs… hugs…